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ways-overcome-self-doubt-biuld-profitable-businessTime spent worrying – about anything – provides no emotional or physical benefit to us; such things only weaken us for the fights we must endure in our lives. “It’s not about being ready or feeling prepared all the time; sometimes you just have to do what you know you have to do. And when you do – you will always see that you’re more ready and more prepared than you realize”

How can you deal with self-doubt in a constructive way?

  1. Stop Making Excuses

The enemy is our chattering brain, which, if we give it so much as a nanosecond, will start producing excuses, alibis, transparent self-justifications, and a million reasons why we can’t/shouldn’t/won’t do what we know we need to do

  1. Beware Of Your Close Circle

Our circle of people may make us feel good, but they’re not always good for us.  In fact, we could be a pawn in their game; unwitting accomplices in helping them achieve an unhealthy degree of power and influence over our decisions and actions.

  1. Raise Your Self-Awareness

Self-awareness can be developed. Spend some time recognizing areas you need to develop and intentionally making an effort to develop or strengthen that aspect of yourself.

So, how can you become more aware of your strengths and areas for development?

You could

  • Rate Yourself: What do you think your strengths are?
  • Ask others for feedback: Be open to hearing what others think of you.
  • Complete a formal assessment test. These could include a personality test, discovering your values, your skills, and your abilities.
  1. Practice Self-Compassion

Self-compassion isn’t self-pity (Poor me, I shouldn’t feel this bad!) or irresponsibility (I messed up? Who cares!) or even self-esteem (As long as I succeed, I feel good). It’s about recognizing that feeling down is part of the shared human experience and mindfully refraining from judging yourself.

It’s important to listen, because the way you talk to yourself—especially when you’ve failed in some way—has an impact on your health, mood, and even your relationships with others. Do you admonish yourself for screwing up, or do you gently remind yourself that you’re only human and you’ll try harder next time?

Making mistakes, fumbling, and losing your cool are an inevitable part of the human experience—but most of us turn these slip-ups into an opportunity to beat ourselves up for being less than perfect. But when we see ourselves as a hopeless failure, we close our heart down to ourselves and to others.

  1. Stop Asking For Validation
  2. Trust Your Values

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GrowingTree A growing tree is a lot like a growing business, it periodically needs an examination to determine if there are dead branches intertwined with the growing ones. We have employees that are dead in their jobs and attitudes, not growing. They are very often friends with those who are growing and restricting their growth by what they say, do and avoid doing. So as painful and hard as it is, every now and then we need to cut away the people who are restricting the growth of the company. It is hard because we care about those people and because of the friendships that will also be strained, if not severed too.

According to experts, pruning a tree is necessary to promote growth, improve the amount of air and sunlight to the healthy branches and to prevent insect and disease. The same is true with our businesses. Those who are carrying the workload of the nonperforming employees end up feeling used and it is possible to lose them before you trim the dead wood, compounding your problem. So take a look around your company. Is there dead wood that needs to be pruned? Even considering trying bringing a dead braches to life is noble, but not worth the effort it is just better to let it go.

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thinkIf you mind is full of chatter, you will not be able to perceive what’s in front of you. The chatter will distort and block your thinking. A little more about our thinking. Most people think that they are what their thoughts tell them they are. One day I noticed that I wasn’t breathing—I was being breathed. Then I also noticed, to my amazement, that I wasn’t thinking—that I was actually being thought and that thinking isn’t personal. Do you wake up in the morning and say to yourself, “I think I won’t think today”? It’s too late: You’re already thinking! Thoughts just appear. They come out of nothing and go back to nothing, like clouds moving across the empty sky. They come to pass, not to stay. There is no harm in them until we attach to them as if they were true.

No one has ever been able to control his thinking, although people may tell the story of how they have.

I don’t let go of my thoughts—I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me.

Thoughts are like the breeze or the leaves on the trees or the raindrops falling. They appear like that, and through inquiry we can make friends with them. Would you argue with a raindrop? Raindrops aren’t personal, and neither are thoughts. Once a painful concept is met with understanding, the next time it appears you may find it interesting. What used to be the nightmare is now just interesting. The next time it appears, you may find it funny. The next time, you may not even notice it. This is the power of loving what is.

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chaos

At that moment when you feel chaos and collapse all around you, know and trust that you can reverse the situation.

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Hap Val

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procrastinationFalling into bad habits like laziness, procrastination, and an attitude of entitlement.

You may recognize some of your (many) behaviors that are like this, which have a trigger which is relatively easy to perform, but cascades effort to the rest of the behavior.  We can combat our human weakness by taking responsibility when others won’t. Lets start today.
If you can establish the trigger as a habit, the rest will follow:
  • Exercising – Commit to going to the gym.
  • Learning – Read at least one page.
  • Socializing – Say hello to one person.
  • Writing – Write a paragraph on any topic
Clever planning matters more than inexhaustible endurance. Invest your energy, not just in trying to stick to your goals, but in designing goals which are easier to stick with.

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thinkposStop saying “should have,” after you lose your job . Start saying “next time.” The former is backward-facing and the latter is forward-facing.
Should have’s correct the past; something impossible to do. When you say “we should have” you belittle past wisdom and efforts
Should-have-leaders honor their critics; something that creates more critics because you get more of what you honor.
Critics frequently don’t participate but judge what was done. Critics sit on the sidelines and seldom offer useful suggestions because they are ignorant of everything that was planned and done. They tear down. If the best you can do is point out failures in others, you’re probably failing yourself.
Participants, on the other hand, offer insightful evaluations that create improvements. They establish platforms that enhance and build the future
Say, “What worked” and “What didn’t work” rather than “What went wrong.” The former acknowledges sincere effort. The latter is negative; it belittles participants.
“Should have” ties you to the past and expresses defeatist attitudes. “Next time” presses into the future and maintains momentum; something all successful leaders do.
Think positive and don’t do anything rush or bitter. As satisfying as it might be, making accusation or sending an email about everything that’s wrong with that company, your ex boss, your ex colleagues, the work place just be smart don’t do it. You need to protect your reputation now more than ever, and a bitter, hostile exit will make that impossible. Being negative holds you in the past and restrains you from the future
Put all the energy in finding the next step up and let the past “What worked” to be the starting point for your future. Better old friends than new enemies.

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ENLIGHTENED PERSPECTIVE

They’re written by Andy Rooney , a man who has the gift of saying so much with so few words. Enjoy…….

I’ve learned…. That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I’ve learned…. That when you’re in love, it shows.

I’ve learned…. That just one person saying to me, ‘You’ve made my day!’ makes my day.

I’ve learned…. That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I’ve learned…. That being kind is more important than being right.

I’ve learned…. That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I’ve learned…. That I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.

I’ve learned…. That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I’ve learned…. That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I’ve learned…. That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I’ve learned…. That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I’ve learned…. That we should be glad God doesn’t give us everything we ask for.

I’ve learned…. That money doesn’t buy class.

I’ve learned…. That it’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I’ve learned… That under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I’ve learned…. That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I’ve learned…. That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I’ve learned…. That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I’ve learned…. That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I’ve learned…. That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I’ve learned…. That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I’ve learned…. That life is tough, but I’m tougher.

I’ve learned…. That opportunities are never lost, someone will take the ones you miss.

I’ve learned…. That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I’ve learned…. That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.

I’ve learned…. That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I’ve learned…. That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I’ve learned…. That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you’re hooked for life.

I’ve learned…. That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.

I’ve learned…. That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

To all of you…. Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence.

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Lifestyle

It’s far easier to fall into a habit then get our of it, especially when that habit is supported by the other

 

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Be a Winner

If you going to be a fighter, you have to accept that getting knocked out is a real possibility. But practicing hard and develop skills giving you the edge and.

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